how-to-know-a-person
Best Thing: Reviewers praise the book for its insightful and practical tips on understanding human behavior, making it a valuable resource for improving interpersonal skills. Worst Thing: Some readers criticize the book for being overly simplistic and lacking in depth, feeling that it does not adequately cover complex psychological concepts.
- illuminators over diminishers
- real conversation is not in the words but in the emotional responses, volleys and connections that run through it
- mirror, empathize even with disagreement
- listen loudly. Don’t try to top or add your experience, probe theirs for more
- open ended questions. Let people give narrative
- Good Questions: Avoid questions that yield one-word answers. Instead of “Where did you go to school?”, ask “How did your hometown shape you?”
- good section on depression
- learn people’s stories. Get to know them. Open ended narrative not data collection and sense making
- sections on big 5 personality traits, major tasks stages, story arcs…